Article by Dr Raghuram Y.S. MD (Ay) & Dr Manasa S, B.A.M.S
Satisfaction or contentment is a unique type of arithmetic. It’s all about how we take a look at ‘an excessive amount of’ and ‘too much less’ and the attitude concerning this modifications from individual to individual.
‘An excessive amount of’ for me is some extent of satiety and satisfaction. It is a sign for me to cease wanting. This trait could also be inborn or cultivated. It’s wholesome to domesticate the behavior of being happy with what may fulfill our wants and it results in peace of thoughts and happiness.
My ‘an excessive amount of’ may be another person’s ‘too much less’. So, when I’ve reached some extent of satisfaction, the opposite somebody has in all probability not even reached the halfway of that.
Satisfaction is thus associated to our needs and wishes. Needs and wishes are associated to wishes. Need is expounded to our thoughts, senses and consciousness. We are able to practice ourselves in relation to manage the wishes surfacing from inside.
We have to know the place, when and with what we have to be happy. It isn’t straightforward. It comes with devoted observe and dedication to not deviate from that observe.
Acharya Chanakya mentions three issues with which we have to be content material and happy. He additionally mentions three extra issues with which we must always by no means be happy or content material with. Each are important for our psychological and emotional well being.
Allow us to see what Chanakya has to say on this path.
Three issues to be happy with
संतोषस्त्रिषु कर्तव्यः स्वदारे भोजने धने।
त्रिषु चैव न कर्तव्योऽध्ययने जपदानयोः॥चाणक्य नीति ७.४।
Three issues to be happy and contented with
One ought to at all times be happy with –
- Swa Dhara – one’s spouse
- Bhojana – meals
- Dhana – cash and wealth
Alternatively, Chanakya additionally mentions three issues for which one ought to by no means be happy or contended. There must be a relentless thirst to maintain doing them repeatedly and recurrently since they’re blissful and wholesome habits.
Three issues to not be happy and contented with
One ought to by no means be happy with –
- Adhyayana – finding out, studying, data,
- Japa – chanting, prayers,
- Dana – charity
Associated Studying – ‘Three issues NOT to be happy with’
On this article we’ll restrict our dialogue to the primary half of the verse which offers with ‘three issues to be happy with’ and their affect on complete body-mind-sensual-spiritual well being.
Three Issues one ought to at all times be happy with!
Swa Dhara – We now have seen that the lust and attraction – kama – in direction of one other lady apart from one’s spouse will result in infidelity points. That is additionally relevant for girls who’re interested in different males exterior marriage. One ought to know the distinction between significant love and meaningless lust.
Chanakya right here says that one have to be trustworthy in direction of their partner. Marriage is a ceremony which brings two folks, two hearts, two souls and two households collectively. Every little thing needn’t be good between the couple. And there’s no good couple. However to work out perfectness amidst ocean of imperfectness is how the establishment of marriage works. Infidelity just isn’t the answer for the chemistry gone unsuitable between {couples}.
Unfaithfulness results in divorces, separation, psychological and emotional trauma to each companions. It isn’t that the particular person will probably be proud of the opposite lady. It was simply an attraction or diversion. Many could not know or have causes for not being trustworthy with their partner and being superb with the opposite particular person.
After marriage, a home turns into dwelling. There’s nothing which can’t be sorted out inside 4 partitions. The love, care, affection, bonding and belief retains this establishment going robust. Infidelity takes its origin from discontentment and dissatisfaction, the explanations for which we have to determine. Comfortable houses are manufactured from blissful spouses.
A sense that ‘I want to return dwelling as a result of my life associate is ready for me’ is a priceless really feel. Behavior of this retains one mentally and emotionally blissful.
It’s also an recommendation to observe Grihastha Dharma – duties and duties of a household particular person, which is likely one of the ashramas – part of lifetime of a person and in addition a dharma – righteous accountability. Being loyal to 1’s partner can also be part of Sadvritta – circle of goodness and pathway for happiness.
Bhojana – Ahara or meals, in accordance with Ayurveda is one among the many trayopastambhas – three pillars of 1’s life. It’s a lifelong assist system and fundamental intuition of life, for each dwelling being. Meals is a blessing however it could possibly additionally change into a curse whether it is consumed following unsuitable etiquettes. Ayurveda has detailed each facet of significant consuming which incorporates perfect high quality, perfect amount, perfect time and place of consumption of meals, methodology of consuming and associated guidelines and rules and issues that one would undergo attributable to erratic and undisciplined consuming.
Meals must be taken to 1 third of 1’s capability is what Ayurveda advocates. That is the best amount and is totally different for various individuals. One ought to know these items to maintain oneself wholesome, match and blissful.
A verse from ‘Ajirna – Agnimandya’ chapter i.e. chapter coping with causes and pathogenesis of indigestion and sluggish digestion of Madhava Nidana treatise says that ‘when an individual who doesn’t have self management and eats with animal intuition, with out contemplating the amount of meals would develop a severe type of indigestion which is the foundation of many issues’.
That is true even these days. Individuals eat meals with out following the principles and rules with respect to high quality, amount and time and consequently undergo from many issues.
Chanakya too has included bhojana – meals among the many elements which one must be contended with and know the constraints for a similar.
Dhana – In accordance with Acharya Charaka ‘Dhana Eshana’ i.e. pursuit for wealth is likely one of the three primary pursuits within the lifetime of an individual and a compulsory one too. Man is continually searching for wealth and the will is tempting and limitless. Dhana isn’t just wealth; it’s fame, glory, identify and success.
As soon as the wealth begins flowing into one’s life, the greed for getting increasingly of it begins ascending to a limitless level. The particular person isn’t happy. Chanakya says that we have to be happy with no matter wealth we’ve got and get. The incomes of dhana must be moral and inside limitations. Greed is a really harmful illness which may lead one to untoward penalties. Dishonest and robbing are the results of unquenchable thirst and greed to have increasingly wealth, whose outcomes will probably be harmful. Greed results in dissatisfaction and discontentment and this may rob us of our peace of thoughts. Materialistic longings can emotionally separate us from our family members or entice undesirable folks into our lives.
Artha – Incomes wealth and cash is likely one of the Purusharthas i.e. 4 elementary objectives or goals of 1’s life. One must be happy with what he earns and it must be moral, ethical and significant.
Lobha or greed for increasingly wealth or materials is likely one of the dharaniya vegas i.e. the urges which we have to consistently monitor and have a management upon, earlier than it takes management over us. So, one ought to know the boundaries for incomes and accumulating wealth and supplies and study to attract the ‘traces of limitations and satisfaction’ for a similar. That is good for psychological and emotional well being.